I know Valentine’s Day was last week and if you are single, it could have been a difficult day or week. On my journey of being satisfied during my single season, I would treat Valentine’s Day like any other day of the year to barricade myself from falling into the trap of feeling sorry for myself or lonely while scrolling through pictures of couples on social media. This was a pretty good idea and kept me preoccupied.
What if Valentine’s Day was more than a day we, as singles, have to mentally prepare ourselves for?
Three years ago, a friend invited me to pass out roses in Downtown on Valentine’s Day. We passed out roses to the homeless, to women in sex trafficking prone areas, those sitting in a bar alone and anyone in between we passed by. We spent the time loving on, encouraging and praying for strangers. Even those in a relationship, smiled and were so thankful. It doesn’t matter your relationships status, everyone has a deep desire to feel special and important.
This year, I changed our Christian Business Women’s Connection (CBWC) meeting by changing it to a Galantine’s Day. Get it? “Gal” instead of “Val”? We each took a cut out, construction paper heart and wrote the words “I am..”. We passed our hearts around the group and each woman wrote 3 encouraging things about who they believe that women is! We are keeping our hearts to read on those days when the feelings of not enough, defeat or just not feeling beautiful. We have this heart to read and know these women believe in me in us! Their words will water and bring life to our soul.
I know of a company who randomly pairs each employee in the office with another for “Love Week” where they surprise each other with their favorite snacks and words of encouragement and on Friday, reveal themselves to each other!
• How can we look for ways, like using Valentine Day, to make others feel special and important?
• Do you know another woman who is a single mom? Divorced? Window?
• Maybe it’s that homeless person you see on your commute to work?
God says the two most important commands are the first love God and secondly, love your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22:36-40). There is something extraordinary that shifts in our hearts and outlook when we focus on loving others. As children of the Most High, we are commanded to manifest the love of God to others. We do not have to wait for 1 day a year to show God’s love.
Most importantly, our capacity to love is not determined by our relationship status. 1 John 4:7 says, “Let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.” We can only truly love if we are transformed from slaves of this world to be born again as children of God (Galatians 4:7).
Remember, God designed our hearts with the capacity for a One, True love. A Constant love, who will never leave or for sake us. A love that never fails. Our hearts can only be fully satisfied by the one who created it. No person can satisfy a desire that was created by the Designer for the Designer to fill. #SingleButNotAlone
A millennial with an Entrepreneurial spirit leading Christian Business Women’s Connection. Find her @ chelseadrinkard.com