As a beauty writer, I tend to focus on sharing the latest tips in season. However, for this blog I decided to share with you something found in the scriptures in regards to beauty. To me this subject is far more important. It’s a scripture that has intrigued me for quite some time.
1 Peter 3-6 says,
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their trust in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.”
With a makeup business on the side and a desire to attend a school for fashion business management, when it comes to loving the beauty world I am surely a culprit. Being a young lady whose world includes much of the beauty world these verses made me a little apprehensive. As faulty human beings when things make us uncomfortable, especially when it comes to God’s Word, we tend to avoid them. Unfortunately, that is exactly how I reacted to this scripture at first, which I shouldn’t have. It should be our deepest desire for God and His Word to shape us and mold us.
A couple weeks ago, after tossing these verses to the back of my mind, God hit me with this scripture head on because He knew I needed it. His Word will never return void and He always makes sure of that. I was at a youth group retreat where we had an all-girls discussion and guess what scripture we would be discussing? You guessed it… 1 Peter 3:3-6! Immediately my attention was grasped by the teacher speaking. I knew immediately God wanted me to absorb this and from that point I could understand what He was trying to teach me.
We all desire to be adored. It is the way we were created. We crave love and attention. But how do we attract this attention and adornment we crave? Do we rely on our tight or revealing clothing? What about our designer bags and shoes? Do we put on a full face of makeup for someone to notice us? Yes, these are things we women enjoy but it cannot be where our hope lies. Growing up not knowing the Lord I will totally admit that these things (especially makeup) was a way for me to feel better about myself. In both middle and high school I yearned to be well liked by everyone. We all at this age wish to be admired by girls and especially boys. It is human nature. Even now we crave attention in a way that is extremely unhealthy. The reason being we lack the self-confidence. To this day, even after being saved, the beauty world is a passion of mine. However rather than a self confidence booster it is a hobby. It is art to me. A creative outlet, a way to express myself. It is a fun way to help me connect with other women and share Gods love. Currently it has become an opportunity for me to empower others and teach them not to hide under it.
So, it is no wonder this scripture kind of stung me a little, but now I finally see the meaning of it. It all starts off with a simple yet self-reflecting question… where does your hope lay?
Is it in the hair, makeup, clothing, or anything related to the outward appearance? It cannot be where our hope lays as stewards of The Lord. Our confidence, our hope, our everything should be in God. That is what is most important in His eyes. What does our outer beauty mean if there is no beauty within? Our wisdom, gentleness, and quiet spirit is what God says is truly admiring. This is the beauty that is unfading. The outer beauty does not last, time can attest to that. Rather it is our heart, the way we treat people and love people.
God Himself finds us so precious. Do you think that God treasures how we look on the outside? Of course, not, if He did our bodies would come with us to heaven. Yet when He thinks of us, and how beloved we are to Him, He thinks about our inner beauty. He thinks about what is in our hearts.
In verse 5 it says that this was how the holy women of God used to adorn themselves. In this verse the word adorn is the Greek word “kosmeo” (assuming this is where the word cosmetic derives from). This Greek word means to make beautiful, to decorate, to dress. So, what this verse means is that they dressed themselves with their inner beauty. They put on kindness and genuine love. They relied on those attributes instead more than their outer beauty.
The verse ends off by reminding us we are daughters of one of these holy women Sarah (wife of Abraham) and says “Do what is right and do not give way to fear”. A short and sweet ending that could not be more fitting. Doing the right thing takes a lot of courage, but it is a commitment we made when we said yes to Jesus. To do what is right and put your hope in God requires fearlessness. Relying on your inner beauty instead of your outer beauty requires fearlessness. Submitting yourself fully to God takes FEARLESSNESS. Anyone can wear the same makeup look, outfit, or hairstyle. If tons of women were in a crowded room wearing the same outfit, fresh out of bed, no makeup, who would stand out? We must put our hope and trust in Him. When we do that, that is when our heart and inner beauty blossoms. That inner beauty will begin to transform and radiate on the outside. No matter what look we decide to rock, we stand out. It is okay to enjoy those things, we are women. Yet we cannot depend (which means put full confidence) in those things. Our outside appearance is a display of the work God has done inside each one of us.